Tell me about your favorite charity: While I have spent much time and energy raising funds for various charities over the years, there is one who stands out. The Grateful Day Foundation, INC., an organization that seeks to fill gaps in services in Oklahoma's HIV/AIDS wellness community through collaboration with partner organizations, providing transportation to those in need, and hosting an Annual HIV Wellness Retreat. While transportation to doctor’s appointments and such are very important, the Retreat is something that completely appeals to me; a chance for folks to spend a weekend together, which involves education and most importantly, comradery.
Tell me in your own words how you feel about community service: Service is not just something that I do, it is a big part of who I am. I am involved with service in almost every aspect of the community. I volunteer at Xpressions - a Tulsa-area dungeon, at events, big and small, and at fundraisers. Additionally, I have served on boards and committees. These are all things where, I saw a need, and stepped up to help fulfill that need. I am looking forward to even bigger opportunities for service flowing from my participation in the International Ms Leather 2016 contest.
What makes you a Leather Woman and/or Bootblack: That is a hard question to answer. But mainly, it is a feeling, a certain something, inside my heart. Much of that feeling arises from the sisterhood I share with my Leather sisters; the integrity, service, and love I see amongst my Leather family and the greater Leather Community. The more time I spend with Leather people, the more certain I am that I am Leather…. And I also enjoy the S.M. and kinky, pig sex!
Who is your favorite Leather Woman…Why? Goodness there are so many, it is very hard to narrow it down to just one. However, The Janet Ryan, stands out for me in many ways. She is sweet, kind, and caring. She is the first woman who ever Topped me in a S.M. scene, and I shall always call her “Sir”. She has also taught me that learning to accept service is hard. However, it is also an important skill to master. Mostly it is the way she carries herself and her independence. Her willingness to stand on a chair, or lay on the floor, to get that perfect picture. The picture that helps to tell our history… our herstory!
What do you feel is the most dangerous mis-information passed through traditional & social media affecting our community today, and how would you combat it should the opportunity arise? I feel that the most damaging mis-information is that what we do is abuse and should be criminalized. I am talking about BDSM. So far, the best way to combat mainstream fear and misunderstanding is to talk about it, to be open and honest with family, doctors, and other professionals. Educate anyone and everyone, as opportunities arise.
In 100 words or less what will you do as IMsL or IMsBB to promote your title? Some things I would like to do to promote my title are to travel and use my experience, leadership, and service heart to help communities - large and small - around the world develop and grow. I would like to help promote safe and comfortable spaces for all members of the community to enjoy together and separately. I would like to be able to show by my actions, and through open and frank communication, what a Leather girl/woman truly is, and that you don’t have to be a young, sexy person in order to have a Leather heart.
What do you say to those who feel that the Title system is outdated and no longer necessary? I would have to tell them that each person finds their way to and through the Leather community in many different ways. The Title system is one of the ways these people can be reached. It helps give people more reason to go to the bars and events where these contest are scheduled. Which, in part, keeps these events and contest going, and helps to keep the bars open. Additional reasons to continue these contest are the classes and demos. Education is the key to keeping everyone safe and engaged in the community. Title holders help to focus fundraising and community service. They help to bring more people together in order to get things done. Finally, the comradery shared at these events is so very important to keeping the community alive, vibrant, and growing.